;D What happened in the past is that Mansu wanted to marry her and MIL said NO! So Dongji and Mansu did not get married then. He married the woman that MIL chose for him. Now, however, he told MIL, who is STILL so much against Dongji, that he would marry Dongji whether MIL approved or not and would even move out of the house if necessary. It took a LOT of persuading from Mansu to Dongji to agree to marry him..
She is not WEAK when it comes to MIL. Rather, she chooses her battles well. If you doubt her strength, try keeping a calm exterior and do not respond in any way except to say "I'm sorry" when you are accused of doing something wrong that YOU DID NOT DO. It's a very hard thing to do - much easier to yell right back at whoever - that takes no self=control at all. Miae does it all the time and so does Sua. Both are very self-involved persons. Dongji is not like that;
Both Jieyong and Dongji are alike in that aspect of their character. It is, after all. the traditional and cultural way of being. Strange to us but not to Koreans. ;D
I understand what you say, Soapy and agree to a point. Sometimes it does take more courage to keep one's mouth shut than to scream.
But sometimes, no matter what the circumstances or the drawbacks, you have to stand up for something. I really hated it when Mansu wanted to promote Baekho or buy him a car purely because he cares about him and considers him a son. But Dongji said No. Now she seems upset that Seonjae is doing well at Bonjour. She also made a meanspirited remark to Dalhyeon about Sonya earlier in the show to the effect that he shouldn't talk personally to "a foreigner."
I think deep down Dongji has a good heart but I don't really trust her reactions or her motivations right now.
Soapy I think you misunderstood what I meant. I know that they wanted to get married and MIL didn't allow that and he married someone else instead (I"ve been following since the very begining too). What I meant is that they never showed just how exactly MIL played it to get them to break up. We've seen her in action at her age now, GOD knows how determined and evil she had to have been to break them up. Just to say that Dongji was probably just as young as JY and a part of her is still intimidated by MIL. I did agree with you when you said that it takes a lot of courage for her to stay quiet even tough she knows she didn't do anything wrong (I've been in the same exact situation with my own aunt so I understand her)The thing is, just like Puppy said, sometimes you have to gain respect by proclaiming it. Every person gets to a point where you feel like enough is enough and decides to stand up for themselves. Again she doesn't have to be disrespectful but she can speak up. It's human nature to step on those who are too nice or too quiet ( we've seen this happen in real life many times) and it's also human nature to get defensive when you feel like you are being attacked so Y isn't she reacting
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She is acting the way she was taught by her mother. This is KOREAN CULTURE, not some other culture. When she has spoken up in her own defense, it only has resulted in more abuse so, what's the point? It will not matter what she says to either MIL or Sua, her words will be turned against her and that would be even more frustrating -- we need to stop judging her character on what WE would do because we have been raised in a far different culture. Yes, I was also taught to not talk back to my elders; and I never did even when I felt I was being treated unfairly. But I would tell my mother LOL - and she would nicely take care of it = Dongji doesn't have that option.
We can talk about this until the end of time and it still will not change how this character acts and reacts. It has been written by a Korean reflecting the Korean culture of Dongji and MIL's time. I think that the more modern Koreans would not be quite so humble; but Dongji is NOT from that time. Sua is - see how she talks to anyone anyway she wants. Even though so many on this board detest Dongji as being WEAK, they also don't like the way Sua talks back to people. HA -
I like Daughters-In-Law because it shows the difference between MILs; some are able to adapt to change and others are just impossible! Funny thing is, in BOTH of these shows, Chicken Walk-Greedy Mom is obnoxious. In DIL she is quite elegant but a real witch - in this one she's just a witch LOL.
One season I watched for 6 evenings and 5 weekday/dinnertime. The only thing I didn't watch at night then was Sunday, when Seoul 1945 was on for 2 hours. Whew! Too much for me. Now I resist. I don't want to be tied to so many hours of must-see tv, no matter how good it is. And yes, it's confusing. I rely on people with better memories, or go to Korean Wiz. It's fun, tho! (I ignore the daytime ones, too.)
My gosh, I watch 7 evenings, 5 dinnertime, 5 afternoon and 1 morning show. This amounts to 8 different programs. I also watch those k-dramas and movies that I either rent or buy. Retirement and a bum leg allow for much recliner sitting.
I envy you Chi guys with SIX K-dramas to watch. What that's like.? We have only 2 here, Likable on weekday nites and DJY weekends.
Do all of you watch all 6 dramas ? Do all of you post on all the boards? Do any of you ever get them confused? Do you ever get tired of watching so many?
Just curious and feeling deprived.
I usually only watch 2 at a time. There was a period when I watched the daily drama and one evening show every day, but like Ginny, I cut down. Now I watch "LON" and "Daughters-in-Law," which I do confuse sometimes because there are MIL issues in both of them, and there is one storyline in "DIL" that doesn't fit with the rest of the show, in my opinion, so it floats in my consciousness between both shows.
I only post on this board usually. I'm the mod for "Cruel Love," but there is little activity on that board.
I'm sorry you don't have more choice of Korean shows. But you do have two good ones to watch.
Post by HappyCamper on Apr 9, 2008 15:19:15 GMT -5
I watch whatever interests me the most. Right now I'm watching everything except The Great King Sejong. They don't run together for me, and I really enjoy seeing some of the same actors in the different dramas. They are all so talented. I think what helps me at least is the fact that many of the dramas that run 2 nights a week are usually 20 episodes or less. It's kind of like reading a short novel. The shorter ones move the plots along pretty quickly, unlike the daily ones. But with the daily ones you can miss an episode or two and still know what's going on. My VCR is my best friend lol. I record most of the evening ones and watch them when I have time. I'm grateful that here in Chicago we have so many dramas to watch.
Dongji is looking more sophisticated lately, imo. (To get back to the original topic) Her hair has softer curls and not all confined anymore, and her clothes are dressier. I'm glad for her. I wonder how she goes shopping, with that MIL always supervising her and sneering.