Na-young vs. Mi-ryung

[galacticchick]

I’ve got mixed feelings with the whole Na-young vs. Mi-ryung issue. On the one hand, Na-young has got a right to be angry when she sees her Grandma, who has always worked hard to keep her family going, doing the housework “all by herself”. However, if she is so concerned and outraged, why can’t she put on an apron and help Grandma herself? Where does it say that a student can’t help with the housework?

Next, Mir-ryung is pregnant. She has to take care of herself. But I don’t think she was all that tired if she admitted to her baby that she knows what she did was wrong. She knew that marrying Tae-young would be hard, hard work. The problem that both Na-young and Mi-ryung have is that when it comes to housework they are lazy. A good point about Mi-ryung is that she is humble enough to accept Grandma’s “scolding” with a good attitude. One thing Na-young did have right though, was the fact that Mi-ryung is immature, even after four years of marriage. One day Tae-young and Mi-ryung will be the “pillars” of the Yoon family—it’s time to grow up. I think they clash so much because both girls were babied so much.

I think Grandma should go reach for that whacking stick again…

[nsheldon]

Both NY & MR are immature. But, MR has been working very hard at home. She wasn't really 'tired' but was taking advantage of a moment to get out of work. And you are so right about NY... She is a student but she could help out more. But culture dictates that the daughter in law (in this case, grand-daughter in law) moves in with her husbands family & basically does everything. MR is very lucky to have a loving grandmother & family. MR & NY still have a lot to learn. But I had a hard time 'siding' with either of them over this. Kinda like, both being silly.....

[Luvz]

galacticchick said:

I’ve got mixed feelings with the whole Na-young vs. Mi-ryung issue…

You made all good points in regards to this battle we are witnessing. Both N-Y and M-R need to grow up. One thing though, I would like to see Tae-Young defend his wife more. Regardless of whether M-R tries to get off from her duties every now and then, letting N-Y yell at M-R and call M-R names is not right. I know he told them both to stop when they were at the table in last night's episode, but M-R is his wife (and pregnant) and N-Y was the one who kept making comments to make M-R mad. T-Y should direct his scolding towards N-Y and tell her to stop picking on M-R.

[Lila]

If dramas like Yellow Handkerchief represent modern-day traditional families and mores, what happens to the person who doesn't toe the line? For instance, apparently Mi-Ryung is at the bottom of the pecking order in that household, even though she's not the youngest. What would happen if she were to tell Na-Young to get stuffed? Alternatively, what would happen to Na-Young if she continued to insult and scream at Mi-Ryung, in spite of having been told by the brother to cease? Do those whose crayons color outside of the lines, so to speak, get shunned, or thrown out of their household, or what? There are so many social rules based on relative status, some of which seem completely unfair and unsupportable to people not raised in that type of society. What are the consequences for not following all of the rules?

Lila

[galacticchick]

Luvz said:

One thing though, I would like to see Tae-Young defend his wife more.

I couldn't agree more. I was a little disappointed with Tae-young when instead of helping his wife out, he went drinking.

True, Na-young has been deprived of having her parents with her since an early age, but she has still always had the steady, nurturing influence of her grandmother. When has she ever seen her Grandmother ever treat anyone badly? It's just the same reason that Mi-ryung hasn't matured: they've been allowed to get away with too much.

[Knov1]

You guys make some very good points. I agree that the problem comes from a lack of maturity on both parts. I also agree that Tae-Young should defend his wife more.