Episode 78?

[BungalowDweller]

Can someone fill me in with what happened on Saturday's episode? When we ran out the door to get to the YSS get together, my hubby forgot to put a tape in the recorder for me. Any info would be much appreciated. Thanks!

[Lucy]

Believe it or not, I'm drawing a blank now! I think not a lot happened. Ji-yeun is getting over her illness, but before she got out of bed Yoonsik gave her some real TLC. He was hovering over her like the lovesick puppy he is, holding her up so she could "eat" her medicine, massaging her legs, searching her face for signs that she might need something --LOL. The folks down at Happy House were still yapping about how they didn't get dinner, and Yoonsik explained that Ji-yeun was sick, but they didn't seem ashamed to show their disappointment. One of the puppies (why aren't there any cats at that hospital? I know cats are not very popular as pets, but there has never been a single one at Happy House) got out while Yumi (is that her name?) turned her back. Everyone at the hospital ran out and searched the streets for hours. No luck. Then, at the very end of the episode, Grandma comes in from shopping with a little white dog sitting in her basket, and says, "I found a dog outside." It was very cute. She hadn't known they had lost one, just thought H.House was the logical place to bring a lost dog. I guess that wasn't very important, but it's one of the many small things that make up the world of this drama.

Big thing is that Younger Grandma finally decided one morning to formally meet with Yellow-hair, and she set the meeting for that very afternoon. Much hubbub, with Younger Aunt calling her lovah and waking him up in the process, arrangements, hairdos, etc. He was very nervous and quiet at the meeting, and, having been warned by Kyungju on the subject, brought along his health test results. Oh, and very important, he now has black hair! Younger Grandma questioned him on that (and so many other things--she was very tenacious), and he said right out that he had heard she didn't like his hair, so he dyed it back. He said he didn't actually bleach his hair blond from black, but that people in his family go white early, and he just added blond to the white part. (That seemed a significant distinction to him.) She asked if he would go back to blond, and he said he'd like to but he wouldn't do it if she didn't want him to. Awww.

The meeting was uncomfortable, but I got the impression that Younger Grandma didn't think he was so bad, though she was in typical harsh form. During the lunch, there were some kids making a lot of noise outside their private room in the restaurant, and he kept getting antsy and po'ed, and he finally excused himself and went out to yell at them, with Younger Aunt following. I think we were all afraid he was going to lose it within Grandma's hearing, but he just yelled a little bit at the manager and took the kids back upstairs to where their parents were.

In the end, after they arrived back at the villa, Grandma told Kyungju to meet Old Rocker's mom, signifying that she is probably going to approve the marriage. Earlier, the Rocker told Kyungju that he wasn't sure it was going to go well and asked her what she would do if her mother never approved. She said, "Then I'd get read to move my things in with you." He said, "As long as you're thinking that way, I feel better about this." It was nice. They are a low-key couple on the surface, but I think there's a lot going on emotionally under the surface.

One last thing is the scene I alluded to in the "Go-euns' parents" thread. Ji-yeun is sitting up at the little table in her room, taking nourishment, and Go-eun tells her for the umpteenth time, "I am envious of you." This time it was because JY's mom and Heegup (the boys' dad) went on a sort of platonic date and it went well. I guess GE envies that they are on the same social level and can do stuff like that. JY hears her out and empathizes with her, and she says, attempting to find common ground, that she envies GE for the love she has for her mother, and that she can't feel the same tenderness for her own mom that GE has. Well, GE shoots that down and says it's not the same and JY wouldn't switch places with her, would she? JY has to agree that no, she wouldn't, and GE says, "I will just continue to be envious of you," or something like that. [whine-whine-whine]

[galacticchick]

And don't forget that you could still record the rerun that will air on Tuesday morning!

[toranaga unlogged]

I think you are being too hard in goeun,first she is not whining.she just-said in her on way,that she admired jiyeun
AND not solely because her mom has money:but also because ji-yeun has a strong confident personality.
something goeun in her position as a low ranking member of
the family that dares not express.AND the comment about if
their conditions were reversed is true,if her parents were
wealthy there would be no need for her to be marked as
a person that has a special love that is deep and sincere.
IS love special,just because her parents are poor?would we pay
any extra attention to her relationship with her parents if
they were in better conditions?I think not.
her statement that there would be no reason to label her
"hyou nou" (dutiful daughter) if her parents were like ji-yeun's is true.so i guess i am trying to say is goeun is not a whiner as some would say,i think she is expressing her self in the only way open to her.

[galacticchick]

I can see what Lucy is saying though. Her husband has already told her countless times that she shouldn't feel like a sinner, that everybody's already looked passed her mistake of her first marriage, but still she says "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry to you" so I can see why Lucy says she's whining.

But you also make a good point in saying that this is how she expresses herself, she does always say "I'm so envious"

[soapygrams]

The only thing I would add was Grandma coming into Jeuyung's place while she was cleaning and telling her to rest ... and that she appreciates how hard Jeuyung works etc. and then Grandma giving her the 3 roses .. it was soooo sweet .. Jeyung giving Grandma a hug .. this is without a doubt one of my favorite K-dramas .. the love and respect shown to others is an example of how wonderful family life can be .. even with all the bumps on the road .. I love this show Sorry about the bold but my eyes are giving me a hard time today ..

[Lucy]

I see your point, toranaga, but I stick by my opinion. (I agree that "whining" is too strong a word, though.) If everyone keeps catfooting around Goeun and her sensitivities, she's always going to be "the special one," the one who needs careful treatment. She needs to be cued in somehow to start refraining from making these complaints and just take her place as a regular member of the family. What are people supposed to do to make her feel better? I just know that if someone kept being all "poor me, life has dealt me an unfair hand and you have it so much better," I would eventually say, "Look, life is hard for everyone. You have one set of problems, I have another. Stop comparing yourself to me all the time." It has to be burdensome for the others. As we have seen, Ji-yeun feels horrible that she doesn't have a baby yet--that's no small thing. She wanted a baby right away, and she even bribed Hana to use birth control because she knew it would be too depressing if Hana got pregnant right away, too. But she doesn't keep going up to Goeun and saying, "I feel bad that you're pregnant and I am having a hard time conceiving." It just bothers me when people think their problems are more important than other peoples' problems. It's all relative, y'know? And I don't think making other people feel guilt is going to make her feel any better.

Soapy, you're so right. I misted over when we saw how touched Ji-yeun was and how she couldn't help hugging Grandma.

I'll say it again: I want this show to come out on DVD! I know it never will, though.

[BungalowDweller]

galacticchick said:

And don't forget that you could still record the rerun that will air on Tuesday morning!

Thanks!!! I forgot it was on Tuesday. And thanks to everyone else who filled in all the nice tid-bits!