Suggestion for "Missed Episodes"

[TheBo]

There seems to have been a little tension here regarding answering requests for info on missed episodes. May I make a suggestion? Many people seem to ask for info on "last Friday" or "tonight's episode" without giving any marker to respond to. Perhaps if people were to say, "I missed Friday's episode [plug in reason here], the last thing I saw happen was Yu-gin told Min-jae to quit his job" or whatever you did see, so a person who might like to respond can get a grip on what you actually missed. I know that sometimes I can remember everything that happened after a certain point, but I can't go by what day or episode number it is.

One of the reasons I love watching Korean dramas is the value that is placed on correct behaviour and politeness, on what is due one's fellows. It makes me cringe when we abuse each other here (although I admit to giving into the urge myself on one occasion, to my shame). I don't think we have to show a false face, but this is a discussion board, not an agree-with-me-or-drop-dead board.

Love
Preachy-Bo

[livesfreely]

Good suggestion TheBo

[Lucy]

When I posted my "reminder" last week that my message, like galacticchick's, had been viewed many times and no one responded, I think it was interpreted as belligerent, but I was just pointing it out as a followup to Galactic's dilemma, which by then had been resolved. I hope you were not thinking of me when you used the term "abuse."

It is frustrating to see that many people are reading your request and not responding (when the subject line makes clear that you've missed an episode and want to know what happened). Maybe the answer is to try and ignore the information on how many times your post has been viewed. Certainly, it's not obligatory for people to pitch in, but it does seem to me that if the only thing that's keeping someone from responding is not being sure what episode we're talking about, people who did have the time and inclination to give a recap could ask for clarification. Yes, it will help if we remember to give some context, as you suggested, but keep in mind that when such requests are posted, it's usually the next day after a missed episode and we're assuming that people who are watching on the same schedule (i.e., here in Chicago) will know what we're talking about. It's only after a few days that clarification becomes necessary.

I am aware that some people don't check the board as frequently as others. If I need a recap in future, I will frame my request including the information you suggested.

:-)

Lucy

[TheBo]

Lucy said:

Yes, it will help if we remember to give some context, as you suggested, but keep in mind that when such requests are posted, it's usually the next day after a missed episode and we're assuming that people who are watching on the same schedule (i.e., here in Chicago) will know what we're talking about. It's only after a few days that clarification becomes necessary.

Ah, here's where you made your bloomer. You are assuming the people who read the board are not dinkybrains. But I am a dinkybrain when it comes to remembering things by their numbers or just because they happened recently. The fact that I don't check the boards every day (I tape and watch later) really has nothing to do with it--I'll still need some context, more than "yesterday".

Please don't take my comment about "abuse" personally. I wasn't taking anyone in particular to task--if I were, I'd have quoted their post and said so. It was like this: I had not actually looked at the boards in about a month, so I was reading a lot of posts at one time, and I noticed that (a) a LOT of people were asking for information in a vague way, (b) a LOT of people were asking (not on this board--I think on Jang-geum) about past episodes when someone, maybe many someones, had already posted detailed answers to their questions, they just hadn't bothered to read back on the board, and (c) the conversations about who answered and why were approaching complete snarkiness. I think it was a cumulative thing. I didn't address point (b) because, as I said, it mainly seemed to be Jang-geum, but on the YH board in the past, there were some ugly fights that started with just this sort of arch bandinage. I just didn't want that to happen here.

Be well.

Bo

[TheBo]

I have given this a lot of thought, and I believe I made a mistake. I offer you my apologies, Lucy. I should not have made my comments so they could be interpreted by any person as a scolding or chiding. I should have quit with the first paragraph of my post, which was, after all, offered as a suggestion to help calm the waters; then, as usual, I stuck my foot in by giving my opinion.

Please, Lucy, and anyone else I may have offended, I didn't intend that. I just love coming here, and I'm a little sensitive to strife in places I love coming to. I don't want it to be Happy-Skippy Land, and I love opinionated give and take, but I have seen other boards dissolve under personal animosity and I just got a bit high and mighty about it; I overreacted. Please forgive me.

Be well.

Bo

[Lucy]

Hey, Bo,

Please don't worry about anything. No hard feelings at all. I was fine with your post yesterday, so don't give it another thought as far as I'm concerned.



Lucy

[mikey]

TheBo said:

I don't want it to be Happy-Skippy Land . . .

Is that anything like Joyland?

[TheBo]

mikey said:

Is that anything like Joyland?

EXACTLY! LOL, Mikey. Thanks.

Bo