Is it really the norm to live with the husband's family? At what point do they get their own place? I know, I know this is what makes of good drama, but how prevelant is this practice of moving in with the whole family to get "close".
door60, are you watching the show somewhere else besides the Chicago broadcast station? Because you are clearly ahead of us. Please be careful of posting spoilers. I'm removing the part of your post that talks about something we in Chicago haven't seen.
Everyone is welcome to post here--we love our out-of-towners--but this is a Chicago-based board, and your hosts are in Chicago, so we ask that you make a point of learning what episode we're on before posting information on what you've seen recently. Or, if you can't be sure, ask content-based questions on the "Spoiler" thread before posting in one of the other threads.
To answer your question yes, it is very common, at least in the dramas. The thing is, from what we American fans have heard, KBS dramas tend to be conservative and reflect more of the traditional values than those of the other big networks (SBS and MBC). It's quite possible that the practice isn't as prevalent among the young as it used to be, but Korea traditionally practices "patrilocality." That is, the wife moves into and becomes part of her husband's family. And you do quite often see this dynamic where the in-laws hate the daughter-in-law, but she (being a good, filial woman) insists on moving in with them so they can all get close. We also saw this in “High as the Sky,” the previous daily drama, when Myeongji wanted her disagreeable daughter-in-law and stepson to stay living in the house so they could become attached. Family unity is a big thing. From our point of view, it looks like the woman is making a lot of sacrifices for the happiness of the family, sacrifices the “spoiled” elders don’t appreciate, but these dramas really seem to hammer home that that is what women (and, to a lesser extent, all “children” or people of the younger generation) are supposed to do.
I have read several times that it is common to live with the in-laws even now because it is so expensive to buy a home or apartment in Seoul. If your parents can't afford to buy you one you live with them until you save up the down payment which can be very high.
Post by MisterBill50 on Nov 29, 2007 20:08:30 GMT -5
I've watched up to episode # 25, and won't give anything away, but I've noticed on other shows that some married couples live with the husband's mother and/or father. It must be a pretty common practice, perhaps for economic reasons, or to look after the elders.
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It is a common practise. If you are the eldest or only son, don't even dream of not living with your family! Personally I kinda like it and I can never understand the jokes about guys living with their mothers. Maybe its a cultural thing!
Suha is so BRATTY!! so lazy!!! I don't like the way she talk s to the poor maid!
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I don't feel sorry for the woman - Dongji - or whatever her name is. She is so hard on her son yet she acts like a doormat to MIL and bad-mannered step-daughter!
Right! Okay, she can show filial respect to MIL, but if bratty daughter isn't filial but rude, why should Dongji be polite, even. She should scold her. And her father should scold her. Bratty daughter has a secret, that she quit school. I wonder if that will bother her father. Can't wait for the little snip to get in trouble.
Not really. Because of their troubled history and years of suffering, Koreans have a great sense of shared ancestry and oneness. Even to a "foreign" Koreans living abroad. It is harder for them to accept an immigrant even if the immigrant has lived and worked in Korea for many years. Or even if the immigrant is more fluent in the language and culture than the ethnic Korean living overseas.
But the government is now making serious attempts to change the mindset. Maybe not with the older generation or even our parents generation. This kind of thing takes time.