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Post by jiminyK on Oct 21, 2006 0:34:20 GMT -5
what's with the weird butt-smacking going on in these soaps? Evidence 1. Tae-Ja's mom is constantly smacking him on the butt Evidence 2. Older sister, Yunji's (from Pure 19) constantly smacking her husband's butt?
Is this some cultural thing, these women smacking their grown-a** husbands/men on the butt? What happened to the good old standards, like a rub of the arm, a peck on the cheek, a pat on the back. I mean, I know this isn't the most PDA/touchy-feely, hugs abound culture (at least from what Ive seen on all the shows), but wouldn't a good, boring old Hi-5 do, saving the male receiver his masculinity and cajones?
There's something emasculating about it, that, even though the smacker and smack-recipient try to make it seem like a cute and perfectly ok sign of accection, it just doesn't work for me! And ESPECIALLY in the case of Tae-ja, it seems like further proof of something inappropriate
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Post by ovaridedis24 on Oct 21, 2006 14:36:08 GMT -5
There's something emasculating about it, that, even though the smacker and smack-recipient try to make it seem like a cute and perfectly ok sign of accection, it just doesn't work for me! And ESPECIALLY in the case of Tae-ja, it seems like further proof of something inappropriate Haha, very funny observation, especially the smacker and smack-recipient part (smackee?). Yeah, I've seen this on a few other dramas too, I guess it's their way of showing what a good job their husband/son/whatever have done. In this case, with Taeja and his mother, although it does seem inappropriate, it seems fitting given their relationship. Now, I'm not looking for a butt smacking or anything, but I don't really see this being any different then when football/baseball/basketball players smack each others butt when they score a touchdown or whatever.
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Post by Lucy on Oct 22, 2006 12:08:29 GMT -5
I agree that it seems weird in Taeja's case. Like when his mother was still mad at him, when she was in bed, and he "offered" his rear end to her but she didn't take him up on it. A few minutes later, she did so, having forgiven him, and order was restored. It makes me think of some kind of primitive primate society. Yuk.
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Post by tkywa on Oct 24, 2006 13:58:07 GMT -5
My mom's side of the family is Korean and butt smacking seems to be a cultural thing. If you're a kid or grandkid, despite your age, you're probably going to get smacked at some point. And not always on the butt...you get whacked as almost a punctuation to a sentence. Like, for example..."oh you're such a spoiled girl!" (whap!) Kind of an affectionate thing sometimes. And it's not really hard unless you're actually in trouble. Then my mom always favored a flip-flop
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Post by ginnycat5 on Oct 24, 2006 16:06:08 GMT -5
I used to get the hairbrush smacked on my butt. Think the flipflop would have been better.
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Post by Lucy on Oct 24, 2006 16:29:37 GMT -5
My grandma (Italian side of the family) used to threaten us with a spatula. I can't remember if she used it, but she probably did.
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Post by theSPICYcabbage on Oct 24, 2006 17:57:18 GMT -5
Ah. The smack on the butt is usually sign of affection. Unless the smacker is upset. Then it is not of affection.
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Post by jiminyK on Oct 27, 2006 16:42:49 GMT -5
I hear what you all have said... But it just seems so emasculating to me. Like, I can understand it being done to a child, and it actually being cute. I can imagine the older sister in Chilli Sis doing it to her son. But 1 - it's being done to grown men and, 2 - the men who have been recieving the smacks (ie, Taeja and the son-in-law on Pure 19) seem to already have issues with their role as "man of the house" or "the responsibile bread-winning man" already! They already seem like less-of-a-man men already, so the butt-smacking, though playful, seem to perpetuate it. For example, I cannot see the mother of Yun (in Mr. Goodbye) smacking him bum! The kid seems too 'grown up' for stuff like that, and his mom seems to be tough, not one to baby him.
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Post by TheBo on Oct 31, 2006 15:43:55 GMT -5
But maybe it's being done to grown men because they can presumably take it, jiminyk. I mean, if you smack a child, it's just about the worst thing. But if you smack an adult like that, how can it possibly be taken seriously? Men in Korea don't really have a problem with so-called emasculation, either--they're pretty much the top of any heap containing women or children, if you see my drift.
I'm sorry for weighing in on a show I don't even watch except by accident, but how could I possibly RESIST a thread with a title like "weird butt-smacking" -- IITL.
Bo
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Post by ginnycat5 on Oct 31, 2006 16:03:36 GMT -5
Can you imagine Mr. Bwaa-Ha-Ha getting a smack on the butt? He may deserve one, but I don't think he'd take it well. I wouldn't want to be in the same room.
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Post by theSPICYcabbage on Nov 3, 2006 11:53:37 GMT -5
I hear what you all have said... But it just seems so emasculating to me. Like, I can understand it being done to a child, and it actually being cute. I can imagine the older sister in Chilli Sis doing it to her son. But 1 - it's being done to grown men and, 2 - the men who have been recieving the smacks (ie, Taeja and the son-in-law on Pure 19) seem to already have issues with their role as "man of the house" or "the responsibile bread-winning man" already! They already seem like less-of-a-man men already, so the butt-smacking, though playful, seem to perpetuate it. For example, I cannot see the mother of Yun (in Mr. Goodbye) smacking him bum! The kid seems too 'grown up' for stuff like that, and his mom seems to be tough, not one to baby him. when a grown man is being butt-smacked as you say, it is likely scolding but with affection. I have never seen this show so I cannot tell in which context it happened. but....i try
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Post by TheBo on Nov 3, 2006 12:24:34 GMT -5
Spicy C, you're Korean and male--or am I mistaken on that? Were you raised there?
Bo
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Post by Soju on Nov 5, 2006 21:41:54 GMT -5
The really weird thing about Tae-ja, though, is the way he proffers his butt to his mother, so she can then smack it As Buddy Ebsen always used to say about Max Baer Jr., "I gotta have a LOOOoooooong talk with that boy!" ;D
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Post by noyou on Nov 5, 2006 23:29:11 GMT -5
It's beginning to disturb me as of lately too... kinda kinky, too kinky like Theng-chil should be the one doing that not his mother. =O
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Post by LauraJean on Dec 4, 2006 21:39:04 GMT -5
yea my Italian grand mother used to threaten us with the spoon but that was when we were much young Taeja's is too old for his mother to be hitting his butt like that his mothers affection toward him is weird
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