sandy
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Post by sandy on May 30, 2006 23:45:18 GMT -5
This drama is beginning to drag on as SH comes to term with his past. I just wish he would have confronted his adoptive parents about his discovery that he's not their child, though he had a better opportunity for an education that seems lacking in his birth family. SH really seems to be adrift, but he's causing more grief for those who love him. Maybe it has something to do with Korean culture, about adoption, that Americans don't understand. In America, adoption is a loving decision to bring a child into ones' family. I don't know, but in Korea, is it more a sense of abandonment by birth parents because the child will have a family name that isn't biological?
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Post by Lucy on May 31, 2006 10:40:05 GMT -5
Well, Sandy, I think that's partly it (though his family name is the same as it would have been if he had stayed with his bio parents, since his uncle and father are brothers). But also, he hasn't talked about this with anyone. He's treating it like a shameful wound he can't show anyone, or maybe his resentment is so great that he doesn't want to talk to them. He hasn't processed anything, or been comforted, or learned the motives of the two sets of parents. The circumstances appear a little shady--essentially, his biological parents appear to have "sold" him to his adoptive parents, and he doesn't know of any extenuating circumstances. So there he is, growing up in close proximity to his "real" mom, who seems not to have cared about him except as an aunt (clearly this was part of her bargain with Nara and she can't be blamed, but he doesn't know that). He's feeling really angry and abandoned. It's too early, IMO, for him to be understanding about the benefits he's received being Nara and Jaeman's son; all he knows is his parents gave him away and apparently never looked back.
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