Feeling sad, he said

[ginnycat5]

Dong-jin said that if he and Eun-ho got back together, they'd just be sad, because they'd be reminding each other of their baby's death. But don't you think they'd be reminded whenever they saw a baby or young child, anyway? I'd think lots of things would remind them of their loss.

[JB]

So far the whole premise for their divorce seems kind of strange to me. I think that if he thought that he was protecting her from feeling sad by getting a divorce so they wouldn't see each other anymore. How come they are continually meeting each other? Hopefully we will be more enlightened in future episodes.

[robinn]

I think he means that he'll feel sad because he'll remember the time of anticipation before the baby when they were so happy and then the pain of the loss and how they were unable to connect or provide emotional support to each other. It's a reminder of how things collapsed and that is indeed painful. If they weren't so happy before then the pain wouldn't be so great afterwards. Even if they continue to meet as friends they are on a different emotional footing; they've created an artificial emotional barrier. I actually understand how this could happen. Grief affects people in many different ways. This kind of loss can bring you together or drive you apart.

[firearrow]

Was thinking all of the above, plus, after the baby died, the sadness he caused her by not being supportive. Maybe, he feels he cannot undo disappointing her and disappointing himself. Still, in a future life maybe they can find happiness together.

[mayan]

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[TheBo]

Mar 3, 2010 15:39:55 GMT -5 mayan said:

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Well, we can't really tell you how to download movies, can we, because that's mostly illegal. It's not allowed by the terms of our agreement with Diener Proboards.

However, if you are looking for Korean dramas, there are lots of free subtitled fansites. One is dramafever.com, which shows you ads in exchange for subtitled dramas. I'm sure there are others.

Bo

[ginnycat5]

Mar 2, 2010 0:18:11 GMT -5 robinn said:

I think he means that he'll feel sad because he'll remember the time of anticipation before the baby when they were so happy and then the pain of the loss and how they were unable to connect or provide emotional support to each other. It's a reminder of how things collapsed and that is indeed painful. If they weren't so happy before then the pain wouldn't be so great afterwards. Even if they continue to meet as friends they are on a different emotional footing; they've created an artificial emotional barrier. I actually understand how this could happen. Grief affects people in many different ways. This kind of loss can bring you together or drive you apart.

Thanks, Robinn, it makes more sense now. I was thinking that it was all his fault, but I guess she could have reached out for him, if she hadn't been too exhausted and stunned with grief. I still think it's mostly his failing. I wonder how long he was out of touch with her.

[robinn]

Without giving too much away, there is still a lot to be discovered about how this marriage collapsed emotionally. The lack of communication between the two was mutual, even if it manifested differently. Perhaps the biggest issue seems that they resent the other for not understanding the way they needed to grieve, that people grieve differently, yet because of the depth of their love they each feel bad that they don't or cannot understand the other's manner of grieving.

It's really a vicious circle but makes for one of the most intellectually satisfying dramas I've seen even if it's based on a realistic and painful premise. I'll take this over the ridiculous melodrama of a "Stairway to Heaven" anyday!