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Post by brooklyn on Nov 1, 2007 23:45:33 GMT -5
I wanted to know if you were in his position, if you'd look for your 'real' parents and if you found them, would you keep in touch or would it be a one time thing just to see who brought you into the world?
I'd look for mine but only if I was given up for a valid reason, like let's say, they were homeless or something lol. But if I was given up just because they couldn't take care of me or didn't want me, I wouldn't want to meet them ever.
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Post by cyuser on Nov 2, 2007 1:07:51 GMT -5
Valid reason or not ... They brought you into this world. I'd meet them and say thank you then see whatever happens(how my heart reacts) after that.
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Post by Lucy on Nov 2, 2007 10:06:30 GMT -5
Years ago, I would have said no. I think I figured the people who raised you are your parents. But now that I've seen more of the world and thought more about how much meaning personal identity can have, I think I would look for my birth parents. That doesn't mean I'd necessarily want a relationship with them. It would depend on the kind of people they were and why they gave me up.
It would also be extremely painful if the situation were like Muyeong's. I don't understand how he can be so forgiving, and I don't know if it really is such a sensible thing to be. I mean, she gave him up, and told him she'd be back, then went off and started a new life. After things improved for her, she never came back for him. That's just like throwing away your child. Didn't she think he'd be hurt and damaged by that? He wasn't a baby, he was ten years old, and one day his mother dropped him off somewhere and never came back. I know we're supposed to feel sorry for her, and I know that blood ties and respect for parents are both really strong cultural traits in Korea, but I can't fathom this whole thing. It's as if they think that the "call of the blood" creates love between people, and the idea that children owe loyalty and respect to parents no matter what they've done is a little damaging to the child's psyche, I think. That hug at the wedding was very touching, but it makes me a little upset, too.
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Post by jungnam on Nov 4, 2007 18:01:09 GMT -5
I thought I would reply to this I was in a very similar situation which is what drew me to High in the Sky in the first place. Luckily I started watching around the time Muyeong met his mother. I was adopted and located my mother about a month ago. She's married and has 2 children but hasn't told her husband about me. So I can only contact her sisters. I feel sad and happy, I am happy that she is alive and didn't forget me but sad that I couldn't be raised by her. My father abandoned my mother so she didn't really have a choice so I never hated her. It's hard still in my town I am the only asian person so I get teased a lot. When I was younger I hated her for making me live here. But my adopted mother is wonderful and I am so happy to have met her. I hope we can meet when I move back to Korea but when I do go I don't have any desire to locate my father. He never cared about me and I'm not angry at him I just don't feel anything towards him. This post went a little off topic sorry  |
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Post by brooklyn on Nov 6, 2007 0:28:56 GMT -5
That would be very good of you CY.
Lucy, I too was baffled by it. He did good to help his brother yes but the way his uncle went about it... gah, I was very upset.
Aww, Jungnam, I'm sorry and thanks for sharing that. I didn't take the single parent aspect into consideration.
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Post by ginnycat5 on Nov 6, 2007 19:57:04 GMT -5
I thought I would reply to this I was in a very similar situation which is what drew me to High in the Sky in the first place. Luckily I started watching around the time Muyeong met his mother. I was adopted and located my mother about a month ago. She's married and has 2 children but hasn't told her husband about me. So I can only contact her sisters. I feel sad and happy, I am happy that she is alive and didn't forget me but sad that I couldn't be raised by her. My father abandoned my mother so she didn't really have a choice so I never hated her. It's hard still in my town I am the only asian person so I get teased a lot. When I was younger I hated her for making me live here. But my adopted mother is wonderful and I am so happy to have met her. I hope we can meet when I move back to Korea but when I do go I don't have any desire to locate my father. He never cared about me and I'm not angry at him I just don't feel anything towards him. This post went a little off topic sorry jungnam, that's a big change to have located her after many years. Now you're taking a trip to Korea and meeting her sisters? That's pretty exciting for you, and for them. Good luck! (I'm sorry you're being teased; what's the matter with people, anyway?! so dumb!  ) |
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Post by jungnam on Nov 6, 2007 23:56:42 GMT -5
I was very shocked when I did find her. I'm 20 so it's been such a long time I wondered if she was ok. I'm happy but still nervous. Well it was my bad luck to live in a small town ginnycat if I lived in a bigger city I'm sure it would not have been as bad. But I thank you for your concern I am happy to meet kind people.
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