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Post by Alexa on Jan 17, 2005 9:32:28 GMT -5
I swear I have never disliked a character as much as I dislike Sanghyuk!!! What is wrong with him? He is a psychotic, manipulative liar  So he tells Yujin, fine we wont' be together. Tells his family & friends that he's quitting his job and then stops eating and just lets himself go. He knew that Yujin would feel bad and come back to him. That was his plan all along. When he does go back to work (after Yujin goes back to him) his coworker asks him why he took all his vacations at once. So he lied to everybody!! He never quit his job. I swear when I heard his coworker ask him that and Sanghyuk had a smile on his face my stomach started hurting. I cannot believe he would do something that low to get someone back. I understand it's hard to lose the one you love, but you can't force them to be with you. Especially when you know they don't feel the same way. I can't say anything more about Sanghyuk except that I can't stand him. Now why would Minhyung take Yujin to see Sanghyuk? He knew that Yujin loved Sanghyuk as a friend and had known him all her life. And if there was something that she could do to help out Sanghyuk she would do it. Minhyung should've known there was a chance that he might lose her. So why he took her to the hospital, I will never understand that. Yujin told Minhyung that Sanghyuk would be allright, that he would get over it. Even though she felt bad, she was right. They should've let time heal all wounds. She also knew that she was weak and if she saw him she might stay. Which is why she didn't want to go see him in the first place. Minhyung should've respected her decision and not taken her there. NOW, why in the world would Yujin commit to being his fiance again?! I understand she cares for him alot, they've known each other forever, but does she have to marry him? Does she not see how obsess he is with her? It drives me crazy cause I know Yujin loves Minhyung and yet she's choosing to put others over her own happiness. I don't understand. I don't understand how she would become his fiance again while loving Minhyung. She is just making it harder then what it really is. She needs to leave Sanghyuk for good and get away as far as possible. Which seems to be Sanghyuk's plan, since he said he wants to leave the country to continue his studies. I swear I can't wait til people see Sanghyuk for what he really is and Yujin finally wakes up and snaps out of it. It aggravates me to see Yujin put up with Sanghyuk's crap. Somebody needs to slap some sense into her! Man, it's good to be nice and care about others, but that doesn't mean you should let people walk all over you! Yujin needs to stand up for what she wants and stop caring about what others think! I dont know who to be mad at (besides Sanghyuk) At Yujin for falling for Sanghyuk's games and agreeing to marry him, AGAIN! Or at Minhyung for being the dumb one who took her to the hospital. |
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Post by Lovely on Jan 17, 2005 10:42:15 GMT -5
I can't believe that Yu-jin went back to Sang-hyuk ! I know she's only doing it because she doesn't want Sang-hyuk to be hospitalized again. Sang-hyuk needs to realize that he needs to let Yu-jin go because she's not happy with him. Even if he loves her, he still needs to let her go if she doesn't love him. It was so sad seeing how Yu-jin was crying to her mom about her frustration over both guys. As for Min-hyung, he doesn't want to let Yu-jin go either but it was brave of him to say that she should go with Sang-hyuk since she's so worried about him, but that he'll always be there for her. Yu-jin is also making me mad with her indecisiveness. Is she with Min-hyung or is she with Sang-hyuk?! She was wearing the engagement ring from Sang-hyuk at the same time she was wearing the necklace (so romantic how MH gave her this gift!) from Min-hyung! I was sad to see that she gave the necklace back to MH...as her way of saying she is going to be with SH . |
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Post by Alexa on Jan 17, 2005 10:52:38 GMT -5
I was sad to see that she gave the necklace back to MH...as her way of saying she is going to be with SH It was sad  The way Minhyung said that he wanted to at least pretend that Yujin had called him because she wanted to see him. The way he always walks around with a sad face. I still don't think he should've taken her to the hospital. Like I said if they would've let time pass by, eventually Yujin wouldn't have been so worried about Sanghyuk. And I'm pretty sure Sanghyuk wouldn't have killed himself. He's known Yujin all his life, he knew what buttons to push I swear sometimes people make it harder than what it seems to be. d**n it all she has to do is leave Sanghyuk! |
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Post by hachiue on Jan 18, 2005 10:50:10 GMT -5
It's sad too that Minhyung was completely right when he told her that she was too busy living her life to make everyone else happy that she was forgetting to make herself happy. And he's being too mature about the whole thing - since she had to make a choice she left the mature man whom she loves and went back to the melodramatic one so that he doesn't kill himself.
I don't get how no one in the show cares about her and they all want her to live her life making others happy, instead of herself. Even her mother! If I had a daughter and she came to me before her wedding saying that her future husband made her sick to her stomach, I'd get her out of there as soon as possible.
Everyone on this show is just so frustrating.
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Post by Alexa on Jan 18, 2005 10:54:58 GMT -5
Everyone on this show is just so frustrating. YES THEY ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I swear I wanted to scream after the show ended on Saturday. Seriously I don't understand her mom. I thought her mom was going to tell her, that if she didn't love Sanghyuk to leave him, but then when she said that Love is not everything, I was so shocked. BUT Yujin cannot blame anyone but herself. Other people can influence us, can influence our lives, our decisions, but ultimately we have the final say so. And thats what pisses me of about Yujin. She needs to take control of her life and stand up for herself and for what she wants. If I had a friend like her I would've knocked some sense into her already. Which is another thing I dont understand. Jinsook was so offended about Yujin loving Minhyung. What is wrong with these people If I was Yujin I would've just ran away with Minhyung  |
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Post by Lucy on Jan 18, 2005 12:00:57 GMT -5
I want to agree with you, but I think there are forces at work here that we (as Americans) can't sympathize with to the degree they require. I mean, for example, the idea of sacrificing your desires to the greater good. That's not something that's valued all that much in our individualistic culture, which puts romantic love on a pedestal above most everything else. Just look at the reactions of the people around her: her mom talks about accepting your fate and about how her lifetime friendship with Sang-hyuk means that their fates are bound up together. And Yu-jin's little friend was so upset at the breakup that she stopped talking to Yu-jin and was so happy again when YJ and SH got back together. To us that looks like none of her business, but I think it shows what a breach in the social fabric Yu-jin is causing by choosing the "wrong" man. I'm not saying I am comfortable with any of this, but it seems like in Korea (at least in the Korea they are trying to portray in this show), doing the right thing and fulfilling the expectations of your parents can be way more important than satisfying your own desire.
To me, what Yu-jin did in breaking it off with Sang-hyuk is sort of akin to breaking up your family for the sake of a new, more passionate love with the person you think is your "soulmate." Is that the "right" thing to do? To someone who thinks that romantic love is the be-all and end-all, Yes, you have to go for that once-in-a-lifetime love or you'll never be happy. To someone who strongly feels the disruption in the lives of children, in-laws, and the former partner who did nothing wrong except cease to be the object of passionate love, it might not be worth it.
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Post by Alexa on Jan 18, 2005 12:04:11 GMT -5
So it's more of a culture thing? Wow, that seems so hard though! I'm just glad that I don't have to go through that, having to basically choose, love of my life, or family/friends. I would go crazy! But I still think Sanghyuk is crazy and I can't wait til others figure it out. And Yujin finally chooses Minhyung  |
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Post by Lucy on Jan 18, 2005 12:24:58 GMT -5
Oh, yeah, he's still nuts, culture or no culture! I didn't get the true significance of what his coworker said about his vacations until you guys talked more about it. The one thing that's keeping me going is that this drama has to have a happy ending with YJ and MH/JS together and SH out of the picture. Even if he does have adorable floppy hair, he needs to be punted off-screen by a hard kick in the butt. And soon. BTW, did you know that they are selling those "Polaris" necklaces on Yesasia, or maybe it was eBay? I saw them the other day. They are mass-produced replicas and not as nice as the one Min-hyung gave Yu-jin, which was probably platinum and diamonds. These, I think, are generic metal (maybe silverplated) and faux diamond. But they are only about $15, I think. |
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Post by Alexa on Jan 18, 2005 12:39:13 GMT -5
The one thing that's keeping me going is that this drama has to have a happy ending with YJ and MH/JS together and SH out of the picture. Even if he does have adorable floppy hair, he needs to be punted off-screen by a hard kick in the butt. And soon. Me too. I just really hope that Yujin and Minhyung are NOT related. I couldn't take another Damo drama again. I would be devastated |
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Post by hachiue on Jan 18, 2005 14:35:54 GMT -5
To me, what Yu-jin did in breaking it off with Sang-hyuk is sort of akin to breaking up your family for the sake of a new, more passionate love with the person you think is your "soulmate." Is that the "right" thing to do? To someone who thinks that romantic love is the be-all and end-all, Yes, you have to go for that once-in-a-lifetime love or you'll never be happy. To someone who strongly feels the disruption in the lives of children, in-laws, and the former partner who did nothing wrong except cease to be the object of passionate love, it might not be worth it. I both agree and disagree with this. They never really were more than friends, according to Yujin, who seems to have just gone along with it because a) she didn't have a "real" boyfriend after Joonsang died, and b) she's friends with Sanghyuk. I think that SH's mom had the best idea when she didn't want them to get married b/c Yujin didn't love him. Now, although Yujin shouldn't have gone along with it, Sanghyuk shouldn't have pushed her, and for that, I don't think he's really a "family" she should care about (since he obviously doesn't think about her feelings as much as his own). Also, I have a notion to ponder: Before Yujin and Sanghyuk were dating or engaged, she dated Joonsang. Does that mean that when it's found out that Minhyung is really Joonsang she will be able to leave Sanghyuk because they she and JS were "joined" first (and more permanently)? If not, then how will the show explain that? |
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Post by Alexa on Jan 18, 2005 14:42:26 GMT -5
Before Yujin and Sanghyuk were dating or engaged, she dated Joonsang. Does that mean that when it's found out that Minhyung is really Joonsang she will be able to leave Sanghyuk because they she and JS were "joined" first (and more permanently)? I hope so ;D |
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Post by galacticchick on Jan 21, 2005 10:29:52 GMT -5
So many good points in this thread. I'm just so frustrated by the way things are turning out so far. MH is too good for his own good, he already had the girl, he should have just run with it (her) instead of taking her to the hospital.
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Post by hachiue on Jan 21, 2005 13:03:48 GMT -5
No kidding. He should've taken her out of the country like Sanghyuk is so cleverly planning to do.
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Post by galacticchick on Jan 21, 2005 13:30:51 GMT -5
Yeah they could have gone pashmina shopping together in Italy.
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Post by hachiue on Jan 21, 2005 13:38:02 GMT -5
Mmm yes. That would be great because it might finally help them get over their obsessions with scarves! Though why would anyone want to?
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So he tells Yujin, fine we wont' be together. Tells his family & friends that he's quitting his job and then stops eating and just lets himself go. He knew that Yujin would feel bad and come back to him. That was his plan all along. When he does go back to work (after Yujin goes back to him) his coworker asks him why he took all his vacations at once. So he lied to everybody!! He never quit his job. I swear when I heard his coworker ask him that and Sanghyuk had a smile on his face my stomach started hurting. I cannot believe he would do something that low to get someone back. I understand it's hard to lose the one you love, but you can't force them to be with you. Especially when you know they don't feel the same way. I can't say anything more about Sanghyuk except that I can't stand him.
